Can your child understand the difference between a loud and quiet voice?
This blog post was inspired by a recent trip to a restaurant. I was having a lovely meal when a child began began shouting so loudly the entire restaurant was looking. Of course some people were blaming the child, but I feel the parent is responsible. This child had no boundaries. Give your child the love, guidance and encouragement they need. Knowing how to use their voice appropriately will help your child in social situations and help them to make friends.
Parents need to set the boundaries. Children need to know the boundaries with their voice like they do with everything else. They don’t come with a volume control.
How parents can teach children the understanding and importance of voice control
1. Demonstrate an inside/outside voice
Help your child to hear the difference. Use your voice to show an appropriate voice level for both indoors and out.
2. Talk about it
Talk about how a loud/shouting voice can make us feel.
3. Let your child hear their own voice
Record your child speaking with their inside (quiet speaking voice) and with their outside voice. (This is when we can be louder at play time).
4. Don’t forget to praise, praise, praise
When you hear them using their voice appropriately make a really big effort to praise and reward.
5. Most importantly remember to practice what you preach
Some adults seem unaware of this common courtesy too. Children are a product of their environment so model good voice control. Loud parents often have loud kids.
Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another, it is the only means.